I'm Demi-Sexual

I was actually married in hopes that marriage would change my feelings on sex. The grand act of commitment did resounds with me and made me comfortable for awhile, but in the end, it didn’t work how I thought it would... 


I might have not ever gotten into a relationship with a sexual person if I knew Demi/Gray/Asexuals were a thing, that I wasn’t alone, that there wasn’t something technically wrong with me, but there’s a spectrum of sexualities.  

Apparently people can just have sex out of the blue... I just couldn’t. I needed a mental connection, I needed romance, otherwise what’s the point? Sex is gross to me without any emotional connection. 

I don’t know how rare Demis are, this is still kinda new to me, and maybe more will come out as time goes on, but I might have to be single for awhile... it’s kinda tough, but I know if I force it, I’ll make myself and whomever I’m in a relationship with unhappy. 

How Men Can Be Monsters

goshyn:

jcoleknowsbest:

jimhines:

i-eat-men-like-air:

doctaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa:

CNN Discussion feat. Amanda Seales and Steve Santagati.

you know what, fuck it, I’m going to reblog this twice because I have a story to tell.

Almost two years ago I was approached by a man at a bar. He was very handsome— tall, with great cheek bones and the kind of eyes that crinkle at the corners with every smile. That man asked to buy me and my friends a drink. 

Not wanting to give him the wrong idea, we turned him down. None of us were single, and we’d all had experiences where men have expected things from us after providing seemingly generous acts of charity. 

That man spent the rest of the night harassing us. He followed us around the bar, dumped a beer over my friend’s head when she confronted him, made lewd comments about my ass when I walked passed to go to the bathroom. We tried to tell the bar staff what was happening, but with the room being so crowded, by the time we managed to locate the bouncer, he’d disappeared into a throng of people.

That man approached us when we were on our way to our car. He was verbally aggressive, throwing slurs at us and stepping into our personal space. When I pushed him away, he punched me in the face hard enough to knock me down. When my friend tried to call the police, he slammed her head into a wall. 

We were lucky that after that, he panicked an ran away. It could have been much, much worse.

Bottom line? Fuck you if you think all women want is attention from attractive men. Fuck you for eternity.

Attention from an attractive man didn’t give me an ego boost. It gave me a fucking black eye. 

“Attention from an attractive man didn’t give me an ego boost. It gave me a fucking black eye.”

men gotta stop this shit…

This makes me so sad because it’s true. 

Want to learn things for free? Go to MIT! (Unofficially)

xampp:

So for those of you who want to learn something new, check out the MIT OpenCourseWare. They have everything from Shakespeareto Engineering of Nuclear Reactors. So, why don’t you go learn something?

The following is an index of the subjects that are covered, click the link to go and view the classes.

•  Aeronautics and Astronautics
•  Anthropology
•  Architecture
•  Athletics, Physical Education and Recreation
•  Biological Engineering
•  Biology
•  Brain and Cognitive Sciences
•  Chemical Engineering
•  Chemistry
•  Civil and Environmental Engineering
•  Comparative Media Studies
•  Earth, Atmospheric, and Planetary Sciences
•  Economics
•  Edgerton Center
•  Electrical Engineering and Computer Science
•  Engineering Systems Division
•  Experimental Study Group
•  Foreign Languages and Literatures
•  Health Sciences and Technology
•  History
•  Linguistics and Philosophy
•  Literature
•  Materials Science and Engineering
•  Mathematics
•  Mechanical Engineering
•  Media Arts and Sciences
•  Music and Theater Arts
•  Nuclear Science and Engineering
•  Physics
•  Political Science
•  Science, Technology, and Society
•  Sloan School of Management
•  Special Programs
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•  Urban Studies and Planning
•  Women’s and Gender Studies
•  Writing and Humanistic Studies

Go and learn something new.

Abortion at 23 weeks - Necessity not Cruelty

frootofmyloins:

apersnicketylemon:

chickenslayer99:

This is killing a human life.

At 23 weeks chances are good that this fetus is being removed because it is:

a) Already dead
b) Suffering abnormalities such as it developed no brain, or had a serious genetic condition that would kill it quickly. 
c) Was actively dying (not dead yet but would be within a few days, 100% guarunteed, 0 chance of saving it)
d) Was actively killing the pregnant person.

Late term abortions, as shown here, make up only 1.5% of all abortions. The above four reasons are the only reasons such procedures are performed. Almost every abortion performed after 20 weeks is done on a wanted pregnancy. So you know what that means? You’re calling people who miscarried murderers. You just implied people who had a miscarriage or would have died murderers. How dare you call yourself pro life for that.

Now for the fun fact: They used to use a different procedure for these abortions in which they removed the fetus intact and allowed these people to grieve for the intact fetus, have pictures, etc. Pro lifers decided people losing a wanted pregnancy should not be allowed to grieve an intact fetus and we were left with this.

Congrats. Your movement is the reason they use this one now when people lose a wanted pregnancy late into the pregnancy. Your movement is intentionally making it harder for people to recover from the lose of a much wanted pregnancy. It’s your movement who left grieving people with this instead of allowing them something easier to deal with, something that would let them hold their deceased fetus.

Congrats. If you think you were ‘saving’ something think again. You’re hurting born people. You’re hurting people who lose a wanted pregnancy by shaming this abortion procedure. And you’re movement is the reason this is procedure doctors are forced to use now. You’re probably an awful and mean person to tell people losing a wanted pregnancy that they’re killers.

This is the post that made me pro-choice. Glad to see it still circulating.

I lost a baby brother at something like 14 weeks because he’d attached to the uterine wall backward, and when he started kicking he tore himself away and hemorrhaged to death.

You goddamn “pro-lifers” were ready to let my mother die with him rather than “killing him before God’s time.” He was already dead; it was a matter at that point of him bleeding out. My mother was bleeding with him. My mother was dying with him. And the hospital she was in? That fine pro-life hospital? Refused to let her transfer to another hospital to abort. She had a ten-year-old and an eight-month old at home, but making sure Joey didn’t die “before God’s time” was more goddamn important than making sure my mother survived. 

My mother asked the nurse if she’d take pictures, saying that the ultrasound images were really blurry and she’d at least like something to remember him by. The nurse, after Joey was dead and my mom was in recovery, threw pictures on my mother’s bed. This fine pro-life nurse gave my mother pictures of a baby that was jet black where he wasn’t blood red. He didn’t even look human. And she threw the pictures in my mother’s face, like it was her fault that there was a terrible, terrible biological mistake that made it impossible for her baby to survive.

We wanted him. Not that the fact that you’ll notice he already had a name picked out would’ve clued you in. I would have had a baby brother just a year younger than me. My sophomore year in college I spent a lot of time crying alone in the student union, thinking it wasn’t right, it wasn’t fair, I should be taking my brother to dinner with friends or helping him study for his first midterms. I’m a big sister with no little brother to show for it, and there was a year that pain and loss came back eighteen years after the fact to wound me when I least expected it. There was a year when there were songs I couldn’t bring myself to listen to without crying because they reminded me of what I could have had. And I still wish, I still wish, they’d aborted him. Because the end result would have been the same. And my family would have been spared a world of pain believing we were losing brother and mother both. I was in ICU at the time after an allergic reaction that left me unable to breathe. How do you suppose my sister felt? Mother dying, sister dying, brother dead—just a matter of time on that one. Ten years old, watching her entire family struggling to breathe, struggling to live.

And you motherfuckers would call my mom a murderer for this. And you cared more for a baby already dying than you did for the two already born who needed their mom. 

Fuck you. You’re not pro-life. You’re anti-woman, anti-family, anti-compassion and anti-love.

Pesticides are designed to kill and they kill more than target creatures.

by Audubon Society of Rhode Island

So, I was checking my voicemail this morning and there was one from a caller who said that she had her trees sprayed for caterpillars – trees occupied by three bird feeders - and now, she is upset that there are no birds at all for her to watch. She wonders if the spray could possibly have something to do with it. (Yes, spraying pesticides on your trees will have an effect on the songbirds.) 

It is not uncommon for us to get inquiries such as these, and it is with great frustration and sadness that we often are faced with educating people after the damage has been done. So, please let me take a moment to reach out to our Facebook friends and family and be proactive about this topic. 

All pesticides are designed to kill. Some are very targeted, such as B. T. (Bacillus thuringiensis) which primarily affects Lepidopterans (moths and butterflies), but most pesticides are broad and indiscriminate. 

When you make the choice to treat your house or landscape with rodenticides, grub treatment, mosquito foggers, or any other pesticide treatment, you have an intent of ridding yourself of a specific creature that you find distasteful. 
However, nothing in nature exists in a vacuum. Everything is connected. When you affect one population, it has a ripple effect across the populations that depend upon and coexist with it. When you spray insecticide, for instance, it does not just kill the ‘bugs’ you don’t like, but kills all insects, including honeybees, butterflies and ladybugs. Likewise, when you spray, the insects do not simply disappear off the face of the earth. Many live a short time before they perish. 
In this time, the poisoned creature may be consumed by natural predators, like songbirds, small mammals and other insects. Pesticides may have a direct toxicity to these animals or may build up in their fat or blood and cause illness or death over time. Even so-called “green” chemicals are still intended to kill, and though they may be derived from natural sources or biodegrade quickly, they are still highly toxic to you and other organisms. 

Friends, it is so very important in this day and age, with the steady decline of bird populations and the utter devastation of pollinator populations that we humans take a serious, proactive look at the choices we make and the practices we support – either directly or indirectly. It is vital that we do not go blindly into the world, but make ourselves informed and educated about products and practices and about science, industry and nature. 
Here at the Audubon Society of Rhode Island, we very much want to help people become educated and able to make informed choices. We are here to answer your questions and point you in the direction of reliable and scientifically accurate information. But we also encourage you to think and question BEFORE you act. Your actions have consequences. Thanks for listening!
(Photo Credit http://www.yorku.ca/bstutch/research.htm)

National Animal Rights Day, Toronto, 2015

by Jo-Anne McArthur